Emotions and Thoughts are Inextricably Linked

That we are emotional beings is a fact that needs no further explanation. Many people frequently claim that they can control their thoughts because they concentrate on doing so by adopting various techniques and methods. We’ve all likely read books on ‘How to Control Thoughts,’ ‘How to Have Positive Thoughts,’ and ‘How to Avoid Negative Thoughts,’ among other. What we must keep in mind is that emotions and thoughts are not mutually exclusive; in fact, they are intimately linked. People generally do not understand the difference between emotions and thoughts but understanding this difference is crucial as it allows us to understand the way these emotions and thoughts affect our mental well-being. How do these emotions and thoughts interact and process particular incidents we experience in our lives?

To understand this, examine various situations you’ve experienced in your life to see if they generated an emotion or thinking first?

If you think about it , you’ll realize that thoughts come later and emotions come first and hence, once you begin to feel emotions, you will experience lesser thoughts. On the other hand, if you begin to experience thoughts, you will never be able to escape since thoughts form a network; you will receive one thought after another. Experiencing ‘one thought after another’ is what we term as overthinking, and this overthinking is detrimental to our mental well-being.  Let’s first understand what is relation between thoughts and emotions.

Emotions are the drivers of all thoughts and hence emotions are experienced before we start thinking . Mostly, as we aren’t aware of this, and when emotions activate thoughts, it results in physical or mental discomfort. As a result, over time, all of your mental pain accumulates in your body as negative energy, which pulls you downhill. And, if we try to control our thoughts, they will never stop, and we will keep running into more and more thoughts. So what should we do?

If only we address our emotions, the thoughts vanish and we will not need to manage or examine any thoughts.

Emotional experiences are a big part of how you see the world, and understanding them can help you go through life more easily. So keep this in mind: whenever you experience an emotion, attempt to figure out why or where it’s coming from, and experience it fully. This can make a huge impact on your understanding of not only how emotions work, but also how they connect to everyday life!



Trust Your Basic Instincts to Avoid Overthinking

Generally, when we use a particular technique or method, we do it for a few days, see ourselves succeeding with it, and then we forget about it when you read something else, or something else comes along, and we start using it again.

We live in an era of information overload, where you try a method for a few days, stick to it religiously, and then leave it as soon as you learn about another plan or someone tells you to do something a certain way or use a different strategy. For example, you read about the health benefits of coffee in a book or on the internet and decided to begin drinking it. After a few days or months, you may now read about the harms of coffee or the benefits of green tea and you begin to follow that advice. This, in my opinion, is incredibly confusing: We live in a world which is replete with directions on what to do and what not to do.

We all want quick and ready replies to our emotions and sensations, yet the same response isn’t appropriate for every situation because various emotions and experiences require different responses. But, rather than asking anyone about the solutions to your problems connect to the database in your mind, which I believe, is a genuine database for obtaining information and solutions to our problems. This natural instinct is found in plants and animals, who don’t read or converse with one another; they just know instinctively. Likewise, your instincts will be able to respond to your questions faster when you are at peace.  On the other hand, if you’re irritated, you’ll get a lot of answers. You must keep your cool and wait for an answer. Also, it is crucial to remember that after you’ve solved your problem, the solution won’t work in any other situation. As a result, you should not keep try to solve different problems by using the same solution.

Although. we are taught and given ready-made solutions to our problems , but they don’t always work. This is why when you’re irritated or confused, you try to fill your head with as much information as possible to discover answers. As a result, you accept any answer and everyone else appears to be smarter than you. Everyone has a distinct viewpoint and recommends various solutions many of which are conflicting, yet everyone believes they have the most up-to-date knowledge. By relying on others to find solutions for you, you’re rejecting the basic instincts and power of observation you’ve been given. We must learn to master our basic instincts via observation and faith. 

People should not blindly follow solutions given by others since others don’t know what you are going through and you don’t know what they’re going through. People appear to expect ready-made responses from others, but they are not their own. It is vital to recognize that your difficulties are unique to you, and you must devise your remedies.

In my sessions, I just show my clients the route and the milestones through which they can develop a connection with their basic instincts rather than promising to help them with ready-made solutions to resolve their problems.

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