Finding Confidence and Reducing Anxiety: The Power of Seeking Answers
In our previous article, we delved into the roots of anxiety and the importance of breaking free from the generational cycle of uncertainty. Acknowledging these origins, seeking help, and exploring the missing pieces of our past were identified as essential steps toward regaining confidence and finding peace in the present. In this article, we will explore how seeking answers to the unknown and piecing together missing parts of the puzzle can significantly boost confidence and alleviate anxiety and insecurity.
The Link Between Knowledge and Confidence
There exists a delicate balance between fear and confidence, often hinging on what we don’t know and our fear of discovering it. Our confidence levels are profoundly affected by the presence or absence of answers to our questions. Fortunately, there are various avenues through which we can acquire these answers, and each approach contributes to enhancing our self-assuredness.
Knowledge from External Sources:
One way to gain answers and increase confidence is by seeking knowledge from external sources. This involves going to the root of a question, whether by opening a book, conducting online research, or consulting experts. Education is a powerful tool that equips us with the information we need to feel confident in our understanding of various topics. The more we know, the more confident we become.
Knowledge from Within:
However, it is not just external knowledge that matters; seeking answers from within ourselves is equally crucial. Often, the source of confusion or insecurity resides within us. By introspecting and posing questions to ourselves, we can patiently await the answers that emerge. This internal inquiry not only helps us uncover the root of our need for information but also leads to valuable “aha” moments where the source of our confusion becomes clear.
Mindfulness and Meditation:
To delve even deeper, practices like mindfulness and meditation can be invaluable. These techniques encourage us to turn our gaze inward and seek answers from within. In practices such as Vipassana meditation, individuals isolate themselves, refrain from external communication, and focus on finding solutions from their inner selves. This level of introspection can reveal profound insights and boost self-confidence.
The Pitfalls of Embracing Wrong Answers
While seeking answers is crucial, it’s equally important to be discerning about the sources from which we acquire information. Sometimes, we unknowingly turn to the wrong sources in our quest for answers, and these incorrect answers can become deeply ingrained in our beliefs.
Consider the example of conflicting advice on when to drink water with meals. One person suggests drinking water before eating, another during, and yet another after a meal. If we latch onto one of these answers without critical examination, we may hold onto it indefinitely, even when it’s incorrect. In life, we often operate with numerous wrong answers acquired from various sources, without ever questioning or discarding them.
The False Datum:
This phenomenon can be described as holding onto a “false datum” – a piece of information that we believe to be foundational, even though it may not be consistently true. For example, if someone is raised with the belief that children know nothing, they may carry this false datum throughout their lives. However, as they interact with intelligent children who offer valuable insights, they may realize that this belief doesn’t always hold true.
Distinguishing True Data from False Data:
To enhance our confidence and reduce anxiety, we must actively seek more information and discern what is true and what is false. Keeping unverified information can lead to increasing uncertainty, particularly in times of conflicting information, such as the ongoing pandemic.
The Role of Stable Datums:
In our lives, stable datums, which often include our parents, provide a sense of continuity and security. When these stable datums are disrupted, as in the case of a parent not being at home when expected, it can create confusion and fear. These experiences highlight the importance of having stable datums in our lives.
However, it’s equally important to evaluate whether these stable datums are based on true or false information. Evaluating the validity of these foundational beliefs can lead to greater self-assuredness and a deeper understanding of ourselves.
Seeking answers to the unknown and questioning the beliefs that guide our lives are powerful tools for increasing confidence and reducing anxiety. By actively seeking knowledge from external sources and within ourselves, as well as discerning true data from false data, we can break free from the grip of uncertainty and find greater peace in our lives. Additionally, evaluating the validity of our stable datums can provide a more stable and authentic foundation for our confidence and well-being.