Marriage is one of the most beautiful and important relationships, even though it is not a blood relationship. The feeling of being with someone you like the most and spending your life with that person is not something you’re born with; it’s something you choose; you choose the person you like the most. There is no authority on marriage that I can refer to.
My 30 years of marriage have taught me certain things, which I will share openly with you for you to decide if it applies to your situation, especially in this marriage relationship; I have been doing marriage counseling for more than 30 years now, and I have met couples, people, and individuals who desperately wanted to save their marriage. I know these are significant choices in your life.
Having a house that you have made your home and hoping to keep it exists because it brings all the warmth at the end of the day; also, if there is a spouse or partner waiting for you at home, that relationship is very important when they ask, how was your day? How is it going for you? It is painful and agonizing when a relationship cannot be maintained. It is urgent that people take action.
Both partners in a marriage should always be treated with respect and dignity throughout their relationship
Both partners in this relationship have always been treated with respect, and I have never pointed the finger at one of them, accusing them of breaking up the relationship. Due to the fact that it takes two to maintain a relationship, one person cannot be held responsible for the success or failure of the relationship.
It does not matter whether you are in a partnership or a friendship. If you do not define the relationship, that relationship will go nowhere because it lacks a definition. It is obvious that this relationship will fall apart very soon because there was nothing discussed in that relationship. No one discussed what the duties and responsibilities were and how to carry on that relationship. Is it likely that you will just go with the flow and see what happens?
In order to have a successful marriage, you should prepare yourself for it.
In my opinion, all young couples, those who are planning to get married or those who are planning to stay together without getting married, should prepare themselves for this relationship. Meet with each other several times, make a roadmap, ask about each other’s expectations, and take that as a sign that both parties are satisfied.
Another person is your client or customer, and you need to find out what you can do for him. Would you like to know what you are expected to do? In his opinion, how should this relationship look? Then reverse the roles and become the client and then tell what all your expectations are and see how they can be met by the person with whom you are about to place your life together.
Getting ready for marriage doesn’t mean collecting things for the house and saving money or planning to have a child; these things are secondary. I just want to make an elaborate plan about what I want from the marriage. What do you want? How we can fulfill each other’s needs and wants. If you’re prepared to fulfill those and you think realistically, then marriage is for you with that particular person.
YouTube Channel Name: Dr. Alka Chopra Madan
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